Q: I want to correct my boss, but not get fired...

dealwagger
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When my boss has a bad day, she takes it out on her employees. Yesterday was my day to be at fault for everything because she was in one of her moods. There were even a few things I hadn't done that she had asked "Did you X?" and I responded "I don't know, what was it?" only to get a huge lecture about it. I have worked this job for less than 4 months so there are still some things I have not learned (I work in jewelry sales and there is a lot of detail in everything, and a lot of liability). So yesterday when I did things wrong she waited until the customer left or it was already done to then harangue me for how awful the consequences are going to be because I didn't do whatever right. And I was never trained to do it!!

With her personality, I feel that if I say something, I will be fired next time I'm late or make a mistake and the real reason will be because I spoke up. I want to correct her behavior by explaining that it makes it hard to be in the right mood to sell when I hear very negative feedback with no constructive aspects. I am thinking of getting a second part time job (this one is part time but it's 20-33 hours per week) so I can stand my ground and deal with the repercussions. 

Anyone have a similar boss issue? What would you guys say/do?
dealwagger posted Jun 30, 2012
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erick99
That is your boss' personality and you won't change her personality by calling her on her behavior. I would think it would be pretty upsetting to work for someone like that and fear for your job. You can't change your boss but you can change your reaction to her. With practice you could teach yourself to not react, internally, with so much fear and anxiety, I would also (quietly) start looking for another job.
erick99 (rep: 17.8k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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kffight3r
which state do you live in? I would 1. Voice my opinion/tell her what's up....nicely of course 2. look for a new job. If you live in Cali, she cannot fire you...there is serious grounds for wrongful termination. if you want that job, I would approach the situation differently. Talk to her about stuff outside of work, get on her good side. If she is just that big of a bitch, then just do your job, if she yells at you, I would call HR.
kffight3r (rep: 712) posted Jun 30, 2012
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gangstabarbie
I have this quote on my office wall at work - " it doesn't pay to be right if the boss is wrong". This is printed in big bold letters and I don't care if he sees it!!!
gangstabarbie (rep: 9.68k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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dealwagger
@kffight3r, I live in MN.
Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate the support. I think looking for a new job is a good idea...
dealwagger (rep: 10.2k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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Acidbaby
Just curious why you say you cant get fired in CA?
Acidbaby (rep: 6.83k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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biosphereplastic
You are in a very difficult situation, correcting a boss is generally not a good idea unless you can show him/her the facts. If it is a matter of opinion, he is the boss and therefore his opinion is the right one. Sharing ideas with him is another thing, another interesting thing is you could suggest that the rules be posted so that everyone knows the rules and procedures, you were unaware that these rules and procedures needed to be done and feel it would help everyone if she posted a list of all the things that need to be checked off for a sale. This way you correct her without correcting her.

Jack
Biodegradable Plastics
biosphereplastic (noob) posted Jun 30, 2012
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MdavidK30
Never encourage someone when they're angry. Just take the consequences and nod your head, and then deal with it when she is in a better mood. I learned that the hard way.
MdavidK30 (rep: 3.56k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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ArtemisDeals
If you really like the job then approaching it like Jack said would be wise. If you dont like it, then I would take it until I found a different job and put my 2 week notice in when I did.

How do people get this way? And if they were like that from the start how did they get promoted to these positions they clearly cant handle?
ArtemisDeals (rep: 7.16k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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dealwagger
MdavidK30, pretty much that's what I did, just nod, say "I understand" and "I will do it that way next time" even though I was thinking "YOU'RE CRAZY!" lol. I tend to take too much crap at work for fear of getting fired.

@artemis, I wonder the same thing. We are down managers in our district, though, so even though her store isn't doing well under her management they probably will keep her their b/c there is no one else to do her job.
dealwagger (rep: 10.2k) posted Jun 30, 2012
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kffight3r
@Acidbaby Cali has super strict labor laws and all Fortune 500 are very careful firing people in Cali. Usually people are "coached out" and not fired. They put you on the worst projects, clients, etc so you initiate the quitting. Actual firing (not lay off but firing) require proper documentation to show reasoning. Even giving a bad recommendation can get you sued in Cali. Be careful.
kffight3r (rep: 712) posted Jun 30, 2012
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