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so this isnt really a question... but i just graduated, hgh school that is, on saturday. and i know im supposed to be so excited and happy, but im neither. everyone arond me is so happy for me, and i cant help feeling bad that im not happy for myself. i want to be happy and even congrajulate myself but everytime i think about graduation, i just smile this weird smile, like im trying to force my own happibness.... i guess this isnt the place to talk about this, but you guys were the only ones i could come to... lol thanks for listening. :)
VraieBeaute posted Jun 05, 2012

High school's an accomplishment! I kind of want to say "you should be happy" but that's silly since happiness really depends on the person. Just be happy other people are happy for you :) You'll get to start a new chapter in your life soon and it's good to have people cheering for you and supporting you as well. They'll be happy for you each step of the way as long as you're doing what makes you happy

arsiel (rep: 13.1k) posted Jun 05, 2012


I talk about this a lot in psyc classes. The single biggest change in life is probably the overnight transition that occurs when one graduates from high school. So much changes so fast that it's on wonder that the new graduate has a lot of ambivalent feelings. There's a lot to be excited about but there is a lot of new things and uncertainties that can be a bit scary. The good news is that you really do adapt very quickly and your new life will feel pretty normal pretty quickly. You'll be okay and you won't feel like this for very long. Hang in there.

erick99 (rep: 430k) posted Jun 05, 2012


hey there..congratulations on your graduation. yeah..for some's such a joy..but for just doesn't seem like it's worth all the hype. i can relate to that. i think i felt pretty excited about finishing highschool, but i don't know if i felt the same during my graduation at college. each person is a little different..and it also depends on what you plan to do next.

nimrodboy3 (rep: 68.2k) posted Jun 05, 2012


I hate to be the black cloud yet again but its just my opinion. Sorry but you shouldnt be happy. The world is so much more cruel, so much more difficult to live in than it was just 20 years ago. Im not trying to frighten you but you should be scared. I guess happy that you dont have to get up early and actually go to school every day would be a happy thing but your future is going to be harder than any of your previous generations.

Acidbaby (rep: 7k) posted Jun 06, 2012


Life will always be harder for a generation compared to the previous ones. This doesn't mean that it can't be good or that you can't enjoy it. Give it time, you'll feel better after you find your purpose in life :)

ancagavs (rep: 18.4k) posted Jun 06, 2012


I was relieved when I graduated high school, but not overflowing with good tiding and looking forward to a bright future and any of that other crap they want you to feel. I had fear, ambivalence, trepidation, reluctance, hesitation and nervousness about me ... but not really any happiness, just an overwhelming mood. It happens. You've just had your safety net taken from you, and are free-falling into the netherworld of adulthood. It'll get better, just choose your own path. Good luck!

munkin2u (rep: 1.3k) posted Jun 06, 2012


My oldest son started worrying about graduation in January of 2011, all the way through May (and beyond).

"Do I know everything I need to know?"
"Will I lose all of my friends like everybody says?"
"Am I ready to be an adult?"
"When will I be expected to be out on my own?"
"How can I get a job paying well enough not to have to go to college?"
"If I do go to college, what will I take? Can I pass?"

He drove me NUTS. His answer to all of the questions were without fail...worst case scenario. He's never been afraid of anything, and he was terrified of the future.

He's been out for a college for a year...out on his own for about 3 months, and is doing fine.

I think your feelings are justified and more common than you know. May just be that other people your age aren't discussung them and the adults don't remember the feeling.

nthsll (rep: 12.5k) posted Jun 06, 2012


I would trade with you in a heartbeat
be happy you are young

encorez (rep: 10k) posted Jun 06, 2012