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I Want To Ask My Girlfriend To Mary Me. Suggestions and Ideas?

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On November 1st we will celebrate 3 years together (of being together as well as living together). We have talked about marriage, and we want to get married in 2-3 years but I want to surprise her and ask her now.

I don't want to buy her a ring, because we both noticed we do not have the same tastes in rings. Plus, she has a thin finger and it's difficult even for her to find a ring that fits. So, we will buy it together.

So, here are my questions: what should I use than instead of the ring? and what are your suggestions on how to make the proposal?

zoneric posted Oct 26, 2012

Get a Cubic zirconia as a temporary? Congrats, hope goes all as planed=)

MrBklynW (rep: 426k) posted Oct 26, 2012


Did you two decide that you'd get the ring together already? I kind of think it's nice for a guy to pick out the ring since it could be a way of showing how much he knows her. You could go with what MrBklynW said or with any less expensive ring so it wouldn't be a big deal if she doesn't like it or if it doesn't fit. It'd still represent what you'd want it to. :)

arsiel (rep: 13.1k) posted Oct 26, 2012


It's the ring that matters, not what type or the cost. I say get a necklace with a heart pendant and a photo of yourself or you guys together in your favorite spot inside the pendant.
A simple chain will do. Propose to her while taking her home one night. Nothing fancy, nothing out of the ordinary. Just your regular routine, which I'm sure you have, and before you drop her off, or if you're living together, before going to bed- just pop the question- simple as that.

MdavidK30 (rep: 3.7k) posted Oct 26, 2012


When I say, simple, it's because you've been together for three years already, and you both want to get married. All you gotta do is, surprise her! That alone will shock her. You both know- the matter is when. So, if you just pop the question, any time, she will be surprised.

MdavidK30 (rep: 3.7k) posted Oct 26, 2012


Good for you...and planning anything is 1/2 the fun I think;) You may find this site fun & informative...
Getting Engaged Link
When my son was getting married, I liked looking through the pictures of cakes & stuff.

glwrks (rep: 124k) posted Oct 26, 2012


Just wait

mrbob (rep: 245) posted Oct 26, 2012


Congratulations! A romantic dinner and getting down on one knee and telling her how much she means to you and that you can't wait any longer for her to be your wife is always a good bet. :)

FibroMom (rep: 244k) posted Oct 26, 2012



I disagree with Mdavidk, go ahead and plan something thoughtful/special for her. She will always remember it, and it will show you cared enough to do something more for her. It doesn't have to be expensive, perhaps a blitz tour of your favorite first meeting spots, or an activity you both enjoy, whatever would be memorable to her.

Being committed through thick and thin both ways is awesome. There is tons of security for the gal, and confidence for the guy when both parties love and respect each other unconditionally. I enjoy the arrangement with my wife :)

maven3 (rep: 5.2k) posted Oct 26, 2012


If you don't want to use a ring, I would definitely make it super special. I love mavens idea of revisitng your first meeting spots. You know what she loves and what she enjoys, work with that for the location. I like the idea of another piece of jewelry that you can give her that she will be able to enjoy as well. Here is my suggestion...For my birthday this year my parents gave me a living locket from Origami Owl. I really think you could use this as a way to propose without the ring. Get the locket, then get a few charms. I would say give them to her individually. Do your birthstones, and maybe one or two that represent something about ur relationship, and then something about marriage or an engagement as the last one and you can use that as keyway to something like, "I'm giving you this living locket with a few charms that represent us and the first three years of our life together. And I give you "THIS" charm in hopes that you will want to marry me and fill it with more charms throughout milestone during the rest of our lives together." Just a thought. It was probably one of the most personable gifts I have ever received. I get tons of compliments and I love that I can add whenever I want. Good Luck and keep us posted :)

here is the website...

tpark6283 (rep: 12.6k) posted Oct 26, 2012


Thank you for your ideas. Regarding the tour of our "meeting spots", not possible. We live in a different city now for almost one year. So, there's no way I can plan that.

zoneric (rep: 58.2k) posted Oct 27, 2012


zoneric, try "a virtual tour" using google street view. screen capture the pix and use an image display to show them one after another.

omegafemale (rep: 214k) posted Oct 28, 2012


make yourself a video of proposing to her, edit & post it on youtube (Can be a private one)...tell her "honey this a funny video, you gotta watch this!!" video starts as a regular youtube funny video, morphs into your video of proposing; When she turns around, you are on your knee.

mayhemt (rep: 279) posted Oct 28, 2012


How about you just say will you marry me and forget all the other sentimental stuff that is not needed. Not everyone has a magical disney wedding or engagement. The facts are you cant afford a ring, and im sure she is well aware of that since youve been together that long and obviously she doesnt care and has great feelings for you, otherwise would she be there now? Just do it.

Acidbaby (rep: 7k) posted Oct 28, 2012


I like your approach, Acid. It's true that she knows all this stuff about me.

zoneric (rep: 58.2k) posted Oct 29, 2012