Just my opinion but nothing in life is a waste. Being married for some is a great experience and for some it is the worst, some people have both experiences in the marriage. A waste? That would be a no for me. Anything I do and put my heart into is not a waste.
branie (rep: 54.8k) posted Oct 20, 2012
It prevents society from rotting completely by allowing and encouraging stable families to exist. On a financial level, I don't think you're right about taxes. Some deductions and credits can only be taken by married couples filing jointly. Also, only spouses can transfer assets to each other completely tax-free, including at death. You might have little to no rights regarding your non-married partner in a medical emergency or if they were imprisoned.
fluffy (rep: 2.2k) posted Oct 20, 2012
If your partner dies there will be a significant difference in your wallet-size. You can leave money/property to a spouse without generating estate tax or gift taxes. If your partner ends up in the hospital, whether or not you're allowed in the room will depend on it. Your spouse is also entitled to Veterans/military, Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits. Workers' compensation, and retirement plan benefits are also passed to a spouse. Employer Health insurance is often available to spouses as well.
If you're OK with losing most, if not all, of the above, then you truly have "no need for marriage".
lancescape (rep: 145) posted Oct 20, 2012
I like how @stella271 answered. In my opinion, when I consider the big picture, our #1 priority is our kids. My husband & I are a great team. Our kids feel secure. Plus I think we like to feel that security for ourselves too. To know that someone is around to make hard decisions, call you out when your being a dumbass, share in the excitement... even if we spend weeks being irritable with each other. I realize it sounds more like a business relationship than romantic love, but considering how much hard WORK it is to stay married sometimes it helps to think that way. The love is always there, you just don't always see it when you fall in the toilet at night cause DH left the seat up... again!
Brentheriot (rep: 63.9k) posted Oct 21, 2012
There is love at first sight, soul-mate, man is not considered complete until he meets his wife, his wife is his partner, helper in this world, his wife should be his number one fan, support him in every thing he does, the wife is there to provide comfort and love to a man, a man needs a woman to feel wanted, woman can not survive alone- even with a good job. Some reasons there. And I didn't even mention religion!
MdavidK30 (rep: 3.6k) posted Oct 22, 2012
I have mixed thoughts on this one. Partially because religion can't be separated from it and answer the question.
Lemme splain, but understand this is mainly my unresearched opinion.
Marriage in its earliest reference is the legal bonding between man and woman. It is a bond that was recognized early on legally because of the religious, social and moral reasons that Stella seemed to allude to earlier. The CEREMONY that we now see isn't representative of the early meanings to, nor does it give any more credibility to (nor take away from) the marriage itself. When you read ancient texts of marriage like relationships, there is a commitment, a consumation and a marriage. "Abraham *knew* rebecca and they were married". This implies that a commitment+carnal knowledge = your married. Further, there is no reference to anything similar when men visited prostitutes.
So it *should* be today. Throw away the GAWDawful moneygrab that is the wedding. All that should be required for a marriage is a commitment. But then the gubment wouldn't get their chunk of the pie and the pias wouldn't have anything to complain about people shacking up together.
But then again...sadly we don't have that kind of commitment anymore.
So to answer. No...as soon as you shack up and rub uglies, the spirit of the marriage exists. When you do it, you've done it.
nthsll (rep: 12.4k) posted Oct 22, 2012
16 days ago
13 days ago
11 days ago
15 days ago
15 days ago
30 days ago
Feb 20, 2016
Mar 18, 2016