I get that feeling sometimes,seems like what's the sense? In my situation this should be the time of our lives that my husband and I should be empty nesters,our kids are grown,suppose to be our time.
But a little more than six years ago a baby came into our lives,the mother was neglecting and abusing him,ultimatly he was abandonded by both parents,at 5 weeks old we got him and vowed we would never let him be hurt ever again.
After going through the courts,I did all the legal work myself,petitions,filings,everything.Took 2 years but finally we adopted him.
He's 6 years old now,has no idea he was adopted.
So instead of having this time to ourselves we've come to realize that that's just not in the cards,by the time he's 18 we will be 61 years old!
So yeah,sometimes I get down in the dumps,feel like all I do is work,clean and pay bills.
Then I remember that all the hard times,all the good times,everything that happened in my life up to the point where he came into our lives was preparing me to have the strength,knowledge,patience and love to be there for HIM.
When things get tough,or you think "why bnother"? Look around,who would be affected by your absence? We all have a purpose here,even if we can't always see it.I was 42 before my epiphany,some of us it takes a little longer to realize why.
Don't waste the short time here by stressing over the little things.
xptrish (rep: 96k) posted Jan 02, 2013
@xptrish that is a very inspiring story! You guys did a great thing - one of my best friends was in foster homes and had 3 different moms growing up. I can tell you that taking in that child amounts to more than anyone can imagine.
Sometimes I just ponder too much. I should instead not take the little things in life for granted and trust Him in the path given to me. I agree with you that we may be blind when facing our struggle, but there is an ultimate purpose to things. I just need to find mine :)
kffight3r (rep: 726) posted Jan 02, 2013
I don't mind admitting that I work for $425 a month and hafta have a lot of help from the state right now. The money I get goes mostly to bills and gas. I have a six year old boy and feel sometimes feel like I should be doing better for him. As a parent, I should be doing more than struggling to get by while I work through this time. I'm also handicapped, so jobs are limited for me. It's super easy to get down on yourself, but I just remind myself "it can't rain all the time". We all have a purpose, whether or not we know it. You touch people's lives just by being alive. Work is necessary, but it's not what defines us. Love yourself, your life and the people around you!
munkin2u (rep: 1.3k) posted Jan 03, 2013
Wise words Munkin2u,there's nothing worse a mother,or father,can feel than the thought of letting your child down or feeling that you are. Material things are not important,the time,love and guidance you give to your child will long outlast that pair of $80 sneakers.
I'll keep you in my prayers.
xptrish (rep: 96k) posted Jan 03, 2013
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